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Matt, these 40 minutes felt like 3 minutes... I could listen to you for hours. I'm not autistic, but I listen to learn so that I can have understanding. I like differences and I love all good people.

Listening to this really makes me consider how the (not) simple act of trying to understand the mind of a "twice gifted" Can lead to growth by the observer. Studying our differences can bring us closer.

Thanks a bunch.

What do you think of Maria Montessori teaching method for learning disabilities?concrete to abstract.

This is a fantastic discussion about dyscalculia! I work with students of all ages, one on one, with math support at a learning center known for supporting and working with dyslexia - and I could not agree more with the recognition that for dyscalculics, mastering ONE strategy should be the goal, NOT mastering SEVERAL ways. The time, effort and challenge involved can be so overwhelming and harmful to how a student values themself. So much of my day to day work involves boosting self esteem via math successes.

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Amazing dad. Your son is lucky. You are patient and capable and so very strong to hang on for the ride ✨❤️ sometimes we go so fast we burn up but usually it’s the gradient between what we can and want to pursue and the world dragging on us that burn us up. Your advocacy and grounding and just letting him fly is astounding and heart warming

You made that poor kid watch niel 😮‍💨 why do that to the kid it they are actually profoundly gifted. Sagans version is much more or rather Sagan is much more of a mind with the spark of the cosmos and of intellect. Sorry just my inner very resentful inner “profoundly curesed with the gift “ has some cpstd around non profoundly gifted people butchering the perspective of the profoundly gifted. I understand this is for the parents of the gifted but still almost no material on this subject breaches the experience from the eyes of the gifted one. At the same time it is warming the effort you gave and give towards your son and towards helping people in the lives of a gifted person to handle them better.

I listened to this and i hate to say it, but i cried. Ive been told im "quiet, shy" my entire life. I feel so seen and very validated. Really appreciate it ❤

hi, I'm 13, was diagnosed when I was around 10, and I'm very grateful for that, I've been going to Logopedia ever since, it helps and I would recommend it no matter your age. thanks for this episode, not many people talk about it.

Speaking from personal experience, and as a very asynchronous person myself, middle class white people who are gifted have also fallen through the cracks with this. It's also a disservice not to include middle class white people in this conversation.

Nobody told me that I was gifted when I was a child. As a young adult, I joined Mensa, then Intertel, and finally the Triple Nine Society. After I completed academic degrees at Stanford and Johns Hopkins, I had to acknowledge to myself that I’m gifted.

Amazing.

Thank you so much.. This is my child to a T, and now I have a much clearer picture.

The fact that you’re one of the only people I’ve seen making the connection between substance use issues and undiagnosed things kids struggle with (or trauma like you said) is the main risk factor 🤯 Like I’ve known this, but not many people in ed even acknowledge this. So many schools only care if a kid is getting good grades and behavior is minimal. They don’t care if the children are thriving. (The administration) it sets kids up to fail. Policy is why kids aren’t reading past a 4th grade level anymore. It’s because schools are teaching to test, not to learn. I got by “fine” in school, too, until I burnt out and didn’t go to college bc what was the point? I wish all teachers were like my kids’ gifted teachers, bc they understand neurodiversity and children. Also, the fact parents have to prove their child is struggling and needs accommodations, even with a diagnosis….if the admin think they’re fine, then they say, guess we don’t need support here 🥲 I do agree that we need to teach skills, but we need the supports to do so if the child doesn’t have the skill, or the ability to build the skill yet (things are often taught way too early and expected to organize by themselves without direction or skill building).

Thank you

Just learning about the idea of neuroqueer. Interesting.

Thank you for posting this episode on UA-cam! I've only recently been able to put this name, "dyscalculia", to my life-long struggles. (I'm now in my 50's.) It's so hard to find information about it! I've experienced basically everything you talk about here. Driving, measuring (for my woodworking hobby), money, time, etc.

As a 2e slow processing Computer Engineer that stumbled into an Aerospace career in R&D, I cried watching this. There were a number of things in here I really needed to hear. Thanks for this.

Such an informative presentation and so good to have the positive aspects of slowed processing speed brought up.

Apparently there is some autism training that describes masking as "manipulative behaviour" and "deception".

This conversation was brilliant for me! Thank you for the insights into why i am the way i am and how to relate to my kids...

Thank you!

LOVE this!!! As a clinician and a parent of a PDA’er I’m going to beg my daughter’s IEP Team to listen to this… For others who may also come across this - Collaborative & Proactive Solutions (Dr. Ross Greene) is the ONLY thing that has worked and I share my knowledge every chance I get.

Where they missed because unlike boys.. they didn't struggle with social interactions?

Anxiety can shut the prefrontal cortex down. Such important topic EF/.

I am reluctant to use the word learned self-helpness. Sometimes the brain is wired this way, whether genetically or affected by anxiety, or PTSD, where structural changes in your brain can take place. I would prefer neuroplasticity, as more positive as we want to work on positive connections and relationships, especially if we are working with avoidance and very strong resistance. Ultimately we want to have a good relationship, as you said, which requires patience and time. The reason I am bringing this up is that sometimes so-called professionals can misuse the word self-helplessness- he, or she does not cooperate. Well, it takes a bit more, than just this. You must work first on trust and relationships. As always a great podcast.

I can’t stand living with my 17 year old PDA daughter. Horrible.

Great..... This is my life with school. I definitely have issues with math concepts and math facts. I can read but my handwriting hasn't been able to improve since third grade, have trouble keeping up physically with my brain, I write letters backwards, have trouble with reading out loud and spelling is absolutely not my forte. However, I was studying at the college level by the time I was in 7th grade and felt like school was too easy. I was a C or B level student in most subjects and completely failed math. Our teachers always docked you points for misspelled words. I've never been tested and in fact, was told that I wasn't allowed to get tested even when teachers and I would ask for an evaluation. I never considered dysgraphia or Dyslexia before now so I'll add those to my list of potentials to test for when I go to counseling next year.

Thank you so much for making this podcast! ❤?

There should be links in the description.

0:30 but i like to learn ... MY WAY

Harry, I've listened to a few of your talks (including one where you talk about labels) and have read your book. The truth is that I don't care what it is called -- but your help with understanding my kid's behavior is more meaningful than I can say. Like you mention in your book -- there is that "aha" moment, where you realize this is actually a known and explainable pattern of behavior. Thank you!

As an undiagnosed adult female in the us, i felt so understood hearing his experiences, and its explained so well! Thank you for sharing!

Perhaps some (most?) children do not naturally feel joy about being involved in arduous tasks and acquiring dilligence. They need to believe these actions bring desired results, so - by definition - rely on some sort of external motivation. Apparently it's a cliche, I find that I did not necessarily hear that aspect mentioned, though.

I like this podcast, however looking through somebodys phone is just unnaceptably invasive. If you view family as a some sort of totalitarian state that just tells you far more about the parents than the state of technology. Unacceptable.

Can one of you just come raise my 12 year old please 🙃

I'm thankful for realizing God made me this way so I could help others! That is the whole purpose to love and serve. Typically AU people have one foot in Heaven and one one earth. No one should ever apologize for this gift. Schools lack the knowledge and ability to see how AU people see things. Instead, they try to conform AU people to their form of thinking and testing. Unfortunately, we do not live in a world that understands or embraces neurodiverse thinking. Honestly, if schools refuse to believe in God, how we expect them to understand or embrace some of God's greatest Angels or gifts found in students with AU.

hello! I am Brazilian and mother of a gifted boy with DLD. Do you know of any research on this double exceptionality?

Great!

My experience is that it’s less about freedom as a concept and more about autonomy. A demand presents freedom- opens up the opportunity to do something. It limits autonomy- the opportunity to make your own decision to take or leave that opportunity. It’s less about “am I free to do it?” And more about “is the decision mine or someone else’s?” The fawn response truly does confuse this issue. We don’t choose when it’s safe to be ourselves. Safety is external. Compliance can be an exhausting coping mechanism. Even the most apathetic person will run from a herd of charging rhinos to avoid death. Demand feels like an existential threat, like a herd of charging rhinos.

I find her experience with anxiety and A(u)DHD (or not being able to focus well sometimes) very relatable, and I'm in 12th grade. It mostly is in school and moments of trigger. But not when I'm motivated and interested, and usually alone. Sometimes I get too hard on myself for my remiss, lack of effort, and laziness at performing well in the system and daily life. At times, in school, I don't study much (I do appear to be engaged in class, however, but I'm mostly in my head or reading something) until the very last moments before the final exams, and I pick it up 2 days before and score about average. (I'm an Aspie, or level 1 ASD in modern, confusing terms. I also have ADHD.) I shall overcome my issues, and manage, work with, and deal with my problems and myself (meaningfully, I've noticed, is the first step of best), and not fall short over my ambitions and dreams. For these are obstacles, and we can do better, and potentially, the best... Thanks for podcasting!

Where did Harry go?

It's so weird because I want people to tell me what to do as it makes my life less stressful, but if somebody gives me a direct order- PURE RAGE 🤬😅

Dear Emily, It is such a pity the wheel of school system is still working We have a lot to do and it all starts by visibilising neurodiversity minds. Cheers from Madrid

So insightful, thank you!

As a PDA'er and the problem with authority, I often love the shi* face look on my managers at work when I treat them the same and do not recognize their authority over me. This causes problems with police encounters (traffic stops, and others) because again I do not recognize authority and treat them on an even footing. I think that this is a positive. Also LMAO at the sarcasm problem, yes I use it a lot but I am not always clear when I am receiving it. I consider my usage of sarcasm to be very obvious and clear to the target. Maybe it is not so clear!

Fantastic Podcast!

I was a teacher before my ADHD eval. I don't think my mirror neurons act typically _(I grimace at babies, laugh when others fall, etc)._ When I do "feel my feelings" it's either inappropriate or I don't feel better, which makes it come back in waves. So I usually dissociate during crises so I just taught students the typical SEL stuff and to ignore/ not do what I'm doing. Mindfulness/ meditation does not work for me because I fall asleep.